Iwe unoziva shamwari iyoyo, nhengo yemhuri kana waunongozivawo zvake anofunga kuti nyika inopikisana navo? Iwe unoziva, munhu anozowana chero uye chero mukana wekunyunyuta pamusoro pekuti zvinhu hazvimbovaitiri sei? Ehe, vanhu vanogara - kunyangwe zvodii - vanotamba munhu akabatwa. Vanhu vane pfungwa dzekubatwa kazhinji vanoramba kutora mutoro wematambudziko anoitika muhupenyu hwavo uye vanotarisira kuti vadikani vavo vapinde mukati pese kana chimwe chinhu chikatadza. Chinhu ndechekuti isu tese tine nyaya dzedu, saka kana mumwe munhu achikuremedza nematambudziko ake, anogona kunzwa kupera simba.
Maererano nomunyori Dr. Judith Orloff, vanyajambwa vanogara vari chaizvoizvo mavampire ane simba. Kana iwe wakapotsa, simba vampire ishoko revanhu vari muhupenyu hwako vanoyamwa simba rako rese (iwe unoziva, semavampires). Vanowanzova zvinoshamisa, vanoshaya uye nepamusoro pekugadzirisa. Kana iwe uchifungidzira (ziva) kuti mumwe munhu muhupenyu hwako ndiye mhando yekugara achitamba munhu akabatwa, verenga kune matatu matipi ekubata navo, kutarisira bhuku rinonakidza raOrfloff, Iyo Empath's Survival Guide .
1. Isa miganhu ine tsitsi uye yakajeka
Hazvirevi kuti haudi kuti vanhu vakakukomberedza vafare, kungoti harisi basa rako kuve murapi wavo. Kana mumwe munhu muhupenyu hwako achitamba akabatwa, edza kujekesa kwavari kuti iwe uri parutivi rwavo, haugone kugara uripo (zvakare, une hupenyu hwako). Orloff anopawo zano rekuseta miganhu yemuviri kuratidza kuti hausi panzvimbo yekuvateerera vachitaura kweawa imwe chete pamusoro pechinhu chausingakwanise kudzora-kana kubata. Ino inguva yakanaka yekuyambuka maoko ako uye kutyora ziso tumira meseji yekuti wakabatikana.
2. Shandisa kufona kwemaminetsi matatu
OK, saka iyi yakanaka shasha. Orloff's Three-Minute Phone Call inoenda seizvi: Teerera muchidimbu, wozoudza shamwari yako kana nhengo yemhuri, 'Ndinokutsigira, asi ndinogona kungoteerera kwemaminitsi mashomanana kana ukaramba uchidzokorora nyaya dzakafanana. Zvimwe ungabetserwa nokuwana murapi kuti akubetsere.’ Zvakakodzera kuedza, aiwa?
3. Iti ‘kwete’ uchinyemwerera
Iyi inzira inoshanda yekudzima zvichemo zvemunhu anenge abatwa asati anyatsoenda. Ngatitii waunoshanda naye ave kuda kutanga mune 45-maminetsi monologue nezvekuti anogara achipfuudzwa kune kukwidziridzwa kwaanofanirwa zvachose. Panzvimbo yekuti, Kwete. Haikwanise kutaura pamusoro peizvi izvozvi, kana kuteerera nekuda kwekuve neruremekedzo, Orloff anokurudzira kutaura chimwe chinhu chakadai, ini ndichabata pfungwa dzakanaka kune yakanakisa mhedzisiro. Ndinokutendai nekunzwisisa kuti ndiri panguva yekupedzisira uye ndinofanira kudzokera kuprojekti yangu. Neshamwari nemhuri, anokarakadza kunzwira tsitsi muchidimbu chinetso chavo, asi ipapo ramba achinyemwerera kupfurikidza nokuchinja nhau uye kusakurudzira zvichemo zvavo.
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