Munyika yakanaka, munhu wese angave anotapira, anonakidza uye anotonhorera seshamwari yako yepamoyo kubva giredhi rechishanu. Muchokwadi, hupenyu hwako huzere nemhando dzese dzakaoma hunhu, kubva kune ane muchetura waunoshanda naye anoramba achidya chikafu chako chemasikati kuna vamwene vako vane narcissistic vanofunga kuti vazukuru vavo zvinhu zvavo. Heano makumi matatu (ane hutano) nzira dzekubata nemunhu wese akaoma muhupenyu hwako.
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Makumi maviri nemakumi maviri1. Viga zviziviso zvavo pafoni yako.
Kunze kwekunge munhu akaoma ari sahwira wako kana nhengo yemhuri yepedyo, hapana chakaipa pakudzvanya bhatani rekuzivisa mbeveve kuti uchengetedze mameseji ekunyepedzera uye nhare dzenhamo kubva mukukanganisa zuva rako. Kana iyo saladhi bar yakapera maorivhi uye mukuwasha wako ari kuvhunduka, hapana chikonzero chinofanira kukanganisa musangano wako webasa.
2. Nyatsofema.
Paunenge uri pakati penzvimbo yehondo, unogona kuzviwana uchinetseka uye uchiisa mukati memamiriro ekushushikana. Kunyangwe masekonzi mashoma ekufema kwakadzika anogona kubatsira kudzikamisa kurwa kwako kana kutiza mhinduro. Harvard Medical School Zvinoratidza kutizira kuimba yakanyarara (hey, imba yekugezera ichashanda mupini), wofemera mukati zvishoma nezvishoma nemumhino dzako, uchibvumira chifuva chako uye dumbu rezasi kuti risimuke. Zvadaro, femera zvishoma nezvishoma kubva mumuromo mako. Dzokorora kweminiti, wozodzokera wakadzikama kuhurukuro.
3. Usatarisira kuti vachachinja.
Chokwadi, zvingave zvakanaka kana shamwari yako yechitima-yakaparara kubva kuchikoro chesekondari akangoerekana aona kuti anga achiita zveudyire uye nekusaremekedza kwemakore gumi apfuura. Asi mikana iripo, kunze kwekunge vaine epiphany yakakomba kana kupinda mune kumwe kurapwa kwakanyanya, zvinhu zvinoramba zvakangofanana. Mutarisire kuti anonoka kweawa-uye panzvimbo yekurova zvigunwe zvako uye kutarisa wachi yako, tora nguva yako inotapira kusvika ikoko uye uuye nebhuku rakanaka kuti urasike mukati.
4. Edza nzira ye grey rock.
Iyi inonyanya kunaka kune narcissists uye mamwe marudzi ane muchetura. Muchidimbu, unoita nepaunogona napo kuti uite seunofinha, usingafadzi uye usingabatike sezvaunokwanisa (kunyangwe kusvika pakupfeka zvipfeko zvinodhaka). Pakupedzisira, ivo vanozove vasingafariri uye vanoenderera mberi.
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Makumi maviri nemakumi maviri5. Teerera.
Uri kana kuti kwete chaizvoizvo kuteerera zviri kwauri. Asi kazhinji, vanhu vakaoma vanongoda mumwe munhu wekunyunyuta kwaari, kwete mhinduro chaiyo.
6. Ronga kushanya kwenguva pfupi.
Mumwedzi mitanhatu, Tete vako Vakuru Mildred havazoyeuke kana wakapedza zuva rose uinaye, kana kuti wakangodya masikati nemaminetsi makumi mana nemashanu kumba kwake. Gara uripo iwe uinaye, asi chengetedza nguva yako yese nepaunokwanisa.
Makumi maviri nemakumi maviri9. Tarisa iwe pachako.
Nguva nenguva (seta alarm kana uchida), tora kanguva kashoma kuti ubve panzvimbo ine muchetura wopinda. Uri kunzwa sei? Unoda kufemereka here? Pane chimwe chinhu here chaungave uchiita kuchengetedza chinhambwe chine hutano pakati pako nemunhu akaoma? Kunyangwe masekonzi mashoma mumusoro mako anogona kubatsira.
7. Usafananidze chiyero chavo chekusimba.
Kana munhu akaoma achisimudza izwi rake, zvinogona kuyedza kumupopotera chaiko… uye usati wazviziva, uri pakati pekupopota. Pane kudaro, ramba wakadzikama uye ita nepaunogona napo kuti usaita.
8. Tora nhanho yekudzokera kumashure.
Vanhu vakaoma vanoda kuita kuti matambudziko avo ave matambudziko ako, uye vanokuita kuti uedze kunzwa uine mutoro. Tsanangura zvakajeka uye zviyeuchidze kuti chii chiri kunetseka kwako uye chii chiri kunyanya kunetseka kwemunhu ane chepfu, pasinei nezvavanotaura kwauri, inopa mazano echiremba wepfungwa Damon Ashworth.
10. Ramba wakatarira pamhinduro.
Mapombi avamwene vako akaoma nechando, denga ravo rakafukidzwa nechando uye vanoda kufoshorwa nzira yavo yese. Anokwanisa kuzviita ega, asi anoda kupedza zuva rose achinyunyuta kwauri nezvazvo. Pane kudaro, namatira kune chakanaka (pasina kunyatsogadzirisa chero dambudziko kwaari) -mupa nhamba yeplumber, mubudisire foshoro mugaraji uye mupe simba rekugadzirisa nyaya yacho oga.
11. Iva nemhinduro yemasheya kune mazano asina kukumbirwa.
Shamwari yako ine muchetura inofunga kuti unofanira kunge uchirera mwana wako vegan, uye anoramba achiiunza nguva dzose kana muri pamwe chete. Panzvimbo pokurega kurukurirano ichipfuurira, iti, unogona kunge wakarurama, wosiya zvakadaro. Inoshanda sedumwa.
25. Usati une urombo.
Kana kuti tarisa kuti kangani iwe uri kuzvitaura. Vanhu vakaoma vanogona kuedza kukupomera iwe pazvinhu zvisiri mhosva yako (kana ivo vari mhosva yako, vanogona kukusvora kusvika wanzwa wakashata chose, kunyangwe kana vasina kunyanyokura kudaro). Dzivisa musungo wekugadzirisa izvi nekutaura ndine urombo nguva zhinji, Brown anopa zano. Kazhinji pane kwete, hapana chekukumbira ruregerero.
12. Zvipe iwe pachako kuzvitarisira.
Iwe unoziva chii chinobvisa ipapo kushushikana kwekutandara nemunhu ane chepfu zuva rese? Massage yeawa. Zvirape.
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Makumi maviri nemakumi maviri13. Buririra mumwe munhu waunovimba naye.
Mushure mekupedza nguva yakareba uchibata nemunhu akaoma, dzimwe nguva zvinogona kuoma kudzokera kuchokwadi. Zvaiva here chaizvo hutsinye uye zvisina kufanira kuti sisi vako vakumbire kukwereta mota yako kwemavhiki maviri, kana kuti uri kungonyanya kufunga? Udza mumwe munhu asingasaruri (uye akavimbika) kuti ugadzirise zvinhu.
14. Ramba uine misoro isina kwayakarerekera uye hurukuro diki.
Zvinorwadza kuti haugone kuudza muzukuru wako nezve weekend yawakapedza kutenga rokwe remuchato, asi unoziva kuti achaseka kana uchiti wanhonga mermaid gown wopedza maminetsi makumi maviri anotevera uchiseka nazvo. Usataure chero chinhu chinovapa mukana wekurasa maonero avo asina kunaka uye kutonga pauri, anopa zano Gill Hasson, munyori we Maitiro Okuita Nevanhu Vakaoma . Saka paanokubvunza kuti waitei kupera kwevhiki kuno, taura nezvechimwe chinhu chawakaona paTV, kana kuti kwaitonhora sei. Zvinofinha, asi zvinoshanda.
15. Usaburitse chero chinhu chakanyanya iwe pachako.
Muukama hune hutano, zvingave zvinonakidza kuratidza kuti nguva yawakanyanya kudhakwa kukoreji uye wakapedzisira watamba pabhawa mubhurawu rako. Muhukama hune chepfu, zvisinei, yako S.O. anogona kushandisa ruzivo urwu kukurwisa, kuudza vaunoshanda navo, vabereki neshamwari mukuyedza kukunyadzisa. Chengetedza makadhi ako padyo nechipfuva chako (uye kana uri kufambidzana nejerk iyi, buda muhukama, stat).
16. Isa pfungwa dzako pane chimwe chinhu chamunofarira mose.
Kazhinji, zvakachengeteka kushandisa kudya kwemasikati kwese kutaura nezvekuti munoda sei imi vaviri Star Wars . Ramba uine chimwe chinhu chaunoziva kuti unogona kutaura nezvazvo pasina kupokana.
Makumi maviri nemakumi maviri17. Deredza kubatanidzwa kwako pamusoro peemail uye social media.
Kana munhu wako akaoma ari fan yekukutumira maemail makumi maviri neshanu na3 am, usanzwe uchisungirwa kuvapindura nhasi. Kana svondo rino. Dhonza maitiro ekusvetuka pavanokukumbira kuti usvetuke. Izvo zvishoma zvavanotarisira kubva kwauri, zviri nani.
18. Svika pamudzi wehunhu.
Hunhu hwemukoma wako hwekuitira hasha hunogona kunge husina chekuita nemabatiro auri kuita panguva iyi, uye zvese zvine chekuita nenguva iyoyo vabereki vako vanokutendera kuenda kumabiko ekuzvarwa usina iye pawanga wava nemakore matanhatu. Chera zvakadzika uye unogona kuona kuti chikonzero hachina chekuita newe.
19. Usavateerere.
Rangarira, hausi pahurongwa hwenguva yavo, uye kana munhu akaoma achida chimwe chinhu kubva kwauri, vanozofanira kumirira kusvika zvave nyore iwe . Kana izvi zvichireva kusimuka-kufuratira mafoni avo manomwe akapotsa, mameseji gumi nemasere uye maemail makumi maviri neshanu, ngazvive zvakadaro.
20. Nzvenga madutu epfungwa.
Elizabeth B. Brown, munyori we Kurarama Unobudirira Nevanhu Vane Screwed-Up , vakagadzira izwi rokuti madutu epfungwa, riri dimikira rinoshamisa remanzwire aanoita kana matambudziko akangoerekana akandirwa kwauri nemunhu akaoma. Iyo tsika, kune vanhu vazhinji, ndeyekuputirwa mumatambudziko emunhu akaoma. Pane kudaro, ita nepaunogona napo kuteerera usingapinduri uye woenderera mberi.
Makumi maviri nemakumi maviri21. Sarudza hondo dzako.
Zvakanaka, wakaziva babamunini vako kwemakore makumi matatu nemanomwe. Iwe unoziva kuti achaedza kukuita kuti urwe naye pamusoro pezvematongerwo enyika panguva yekutenda. Yakashongedzwa neruzivo urwu, zviri nyore kurega. Dzidzira iyo iwe unogona kunge wakarurama motto kumusoro kusvikira pie yepungu ichishandiswa uye iwe unosvika kumba.
22. Usabvumira chero chinhu.
Iwe unozvirumbidza nekuva akanaka, anochinjika uye anogara, asi munhu ane muchetura achatora mukana wekuda kwako kwakanaka. Usati washandiswa kuita gumi nemaviri zvinhu kumunhu akaoma izvo zvisingakubatsire zvachose, dzidzira kutaura, ndinofanira kufunga nezvazvo usati wabvumirana chero chinhu. Izvi zvinokupa iwe nzvimbo uye nguva yekusarudza kana iwe chaizvo kuda kubatsira hama yako nebhizimusi rake rembatya, kana zvine hutano kuti ubve.
23. Ona nyika nemeso avo (kwesekondi chete).
Kana iwe ukaona uchinetsekana kubata nemunhu ane muchetura, tora nhanho kumashure uye funga nezve izvo hupenyu hunofanira kunge hwakaita kwavari. Kana iwe ukawana munhu uyu akaoma, mikana yakawanda yevamwe vanhu vanoita, zvakare. Iva netsitsi kuti shamwari yako haina kuzviziva, uye unzwe uchitenda kuti hausi muchikepe chimwe chete.
Makumi maviri nemakumi maviriKana munhu akaomerwa akakuona uchifara, anogona kuita zvese zvaanogona kuti abvise. Kana mukoma nomunun’una wako ane godo neimba yako itsva, anogona kuonesa nounyengeri chinhu chiri chose chisina kururama pairi achiedza kukushatirisa. Sezvineiwo, maererano naBrown, mufaro ndewemunhu uye wakakodzera kuchengetedzwa. Kana mufaro wedu uye kugadzikana kwakavakirwa pane tarisiro yekuchinja kwavo, isu takavapa matomu muhupenyu hwedu. Paunenge uchifara, hapana chinhu iye-kana chero ani zvake-anofanira kukwanisa kuita kuti azunze.
26. Usaita kuti stress yavo iite stress yako.
Varume, izvi zvakakosha. Kana shamwari yako ichigunun'una kuti hapana chinhu muhupenyu hwake chiri kushanda, uye anovenga basa rake uye hupenyu hwake hunosiririsa (sezvaanoita zvese nguva yaunomuona nekuda kwebrunch), usaedze kumugadzirisa matambudziko ake, anodaro Rick Kirschner naRick Brinkman, vanyori ve Kuita Nevanhu Vausingagone Kumira . Mhinduro iri nani? Iva netsitsi kune vanonzwisa tsitsi Whiners vane hupenyu hunoita seusingagone kudzora. Ndicho chete chinhu chaunonyatso kudzora mumamiriro ezvinhu aya, shure kwezvose.
Makumi maviri nemakumi maviri27. Tarisa mutauro wako.
Kana iwe uri kupedza nguva yakawedzerwa nemunhu ane chepfu, tarisa nguva nenguva uye tarisa muviri wako. Maoko ako ari muzvibhakera here? Mutsipa wako wakaoma here? Uri kufemereka here? Gara munzvimbo isina kwawakarerekera, tora mweya wakadzika kunze kuti udzinge kushushikana kubva mumuviri wako uye edza kugara wakadzikama sezvinobvira mukati mekubatana.
28. Vimba nemasikirwo ako.
Kana tete vako vanoshamisa vakakuudza kuti muzukuru wako arikupopota nekuda kwekusaenda kumuchato wake, zvinogona kunge ari kutaura chokwadi. Zvisinei, ndizvo probable kuti tete vako vari kumutsa dambudziko, sezvavanogara vachiita, uye hapana manzwiro akaoma anobva kuhama yako. Pane kuti upinde munyaya yamainini vako, tora danho shure uye urangarire nhoroondo yavo nemhando idzi dzemakakatanwa.
29. Zvipe kumusana.
Phew . Wazviita. Iwe wakapinda kuburikidza nehunyengeri hwekudyidzana nemunhu akaoma. Zvipe mbiri yekupfuura nayo, anodaro mumwe muongorori wepfungwa Barbara Markway . ' Zvinotora simba rakawanda kuti usaite sejee kana mumwe munhu achiita zvakaipa,’ anodaro. 'Usasvetuka danho iri!'
30. Kana zvimwe zvese zvikasabudirira, zvibvise muhupenyu hwako.
Dzimwe nguva, munhu ane muchetura anokanganisa hupenyu hwako zvakanyanya, sarudzo yako chete ndeyekuvabvisa muhupenyu hwako zvachose. Pakupedzisira, iwe unofanirwa kuzvitarisira iwe kutanga, uye kana munhu akaoma asingakwanisi kuenzana neiyo equation, hukama hwakanaka hahuzombogoneki. Ukakurumidza kuvarega vachienda, nokukurumidza iwe unogona kuisa pfungwa pakudzidza, kukura nekuwana hukama hwakanaka-uye tarisiro, shamwari yako yakaoma ichakwanisa kuenderera mberi, zvakare.
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