Tikugashirei ku‘Between the Sheets,’ nhevedzano itsva umo tinopindura mibvunzo pamusoro pebonde, ukama uye kuwana mufaro mukati nokubuda murudo. Une mubvunzo unopisa? Tumira ku editor@purewow.com .
Ndakadanana nemurume wangu nekuda kwehunhu hwakanaka hwaanounza patafura. Ndibaba vakuru, vanotsigira basa rangu uye ishamwari yangu yepamoyo. Asi handisi kutombonzwa sekunge ari murudo neni zvakare. Isu tinongoita bonde kamwechete pamwedzi, haawanzopa rudo rwenyama uye haamboronge zuva rehusiku kana nguva dzakakosha. Ndinotaura sei zvandinenge ndichishaya, ndisingarerutsi zvose zvaanoita muwanano yedu?
Vaviri vane mitauro yerudo yakasiyana vanowanzoita sezvikepe zviviri zviri kupfuura usiku; zviratidzo zvose zverudo variipapo, havangooneki kune mumwe munhu. Auye aKana ukakura muukama hwako, pachave nenguva dzaunonzwa sewakawanda wemudiwa pane mudiwa.Saka sei kubata? Nekurangarira aya matatu dictums:
Rudo runoshanduka-shanduka—dzidza kurwukoshesa
Makore akati wandei (kana kupfuura) muhukama,thekudanana nechamupupurizvisingadzivisikithespasi, uyehupenyu hushomamarozi uye nzvimbo itsva dzepabondenezvimwemhino dzinomhanya uye kudzidzira nhabvu. Iwe unoita nhamburiko kare, asi iwe paunowedzera zvimwe zvisungo mundiro yako, dzimwe nguva hausi wega wega wega wega nemumwe wako. Dzimwe nguva iwe uri ziya-uye-kutuka-mazwi iwe pachako, uye kutuka, izvo zvakanaka zvakare.
Chipo chakanakisa cherudo rwakakura kuzvirega iwe uchizorora mukatibasa iri, nekuziva zvipingamupinyi asi kupemberera kukunda. Saka pamwe hausi wega wakawanda (Zvakanaka chero) lingerie, asi iwe zvino wasvikavhunduka pamberi pemurume wako,pasina kunetseka kuti achakuramba. Kana kuti unosvika pakubvuma kuti unovenga Star Wars uye anoenda kunoona bhaisikopo idzva neshamwari dzake. Pazasi mutsara: Unosvika pakuve iwe, uye ndicho chinhu chekukoshesa.
Iwe haugone kutarisira shanduko dzakakosha mumurume wako
Kana maitiro apinda, uye wave uine mumwe munhu kwemakore, iweget toona kuti ndivanaani chaizvo. (Ndosakanyanzvi zhinji dzinobvuma kuti iwehaafaniri kurooramunhumukati memakore maviri okutangayekuvaziva.)Uye mukomanawauinaye iyezvino ndiye angangove munhu aigara ari murume wako, zvakanyanyaauthenticvhezheni yake (panzvimbo peiyo vhezheni anga achiedza kukufadza nekushamisika kwekupera kwesvondo getaways).Kana akaratidza rudo kuburikidza nemabasa ebasa—kuita zvinhu kuderedza mutoro wako, kuva baba vakanaka—saka usatarisire kuti achataura zvisina maturo. Kana achiratidza rudo kubudikidzalow-kiyinguva yakanaka newe, saka anogona kunge asiri werudzikukushamisa iwekudya kwemanheru kana kutengaa lavishbirthday present. Hapana munhu zvinogona kuva zvinhu zvose.
Iwe unoti murume wako munhu mukuru, anotsigira muhupenyu hwako, baba vakanaka uye shamwari yepamoyo.Asi kanaiwe hausi kunzwa rudo (kana pamwe kuda?), Fungidziro yangu ndeyekuti iwe unoda maonero-anochinja. Nguva inotevera apo murume wako anoita chimwe chinhu chine mutsa (anotora vana kuti urege kuita, anokukurudzira kukumbira kusimudzwa), edza kuzviona sechiito chorudo panzvimbo pechiito chiri nyore chomutsa.
Asi unogona kukumbira mumwe wako kuti aedze kuratidza rudo rwakawanda
Nepo iwe haugone kutarisira kuti murume wako achachinja zvachose, iweanogonatarisira kuti asangane newe pakati.Itzvinonzwika senge uri mhando yenguva uye yekubata munhu wenyama, saka ndinofunga danho rako rekutanga kubvunza zvimwe, mune izvi.Unoda kubata maoko kana wabuda? Unoda kubata patyakakwirira kana uri pamba pasofa? Unoda bonde rakawanda svondo rega rega? Huya neseti yezvinangwa, gara naye pasi mokurukura izvozvo. Bvunza kuti rudo rwakaita sei kwaari, zvakare. Kana vanhu vachinzwa kudiwa, vanowanzonzwa kufemerwa zvakanyanyakuzvipashure.
Tevere, ibasa rako kuita zvaunenge wakumbira. Tanga bondekazhinji, tambanudza ruoko rwake kana wabudauye rongai misi imi muri vaviri chete.Hongu, unoda kuti murume wako aitewo zvinhu izvi, asi nokupa muenzaniso wezvakaita mutauro wako werudo, unomupa mukana wekurwa. Uye chimwe chinhu chinondiudza kuti agadzirira dambudziko.
Jenna Birch ndiye murairidzi wekufambidzana , mutori wenhau uye munyori we Mugero Werudo: Chirongwa Chakasimba chekukunda Muhupenyu & nerudo .
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