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Hi, Group Chat,
Nguva isati yakwana, imwe yeshamwari dzangu dzepamwoyo yakapfimbana ndokundikumbira kuti ndive mukadzi wemuroora. Akanga asingadi kupfimbana kwenguva refu, saka akakurumidza kuronga kuita pati yaNyamavhuvhu uye muchato mwedzi mishoma gare gare muna Mbudzi. Kunyange zvazvo pakutanga ndaifarira gadziriro dzose dzemuchato, zvino pfungwa yokuenda kupati inondiita kuti nditye. Nyika dziri kutanga kuvhurika zvakare, asi ini handisati ndanzwa ndakachengeteka kuenda kumabiko ane makumi matanhatu-pamwe nevanhu, kunyanya kana vamwe vavo vachiuya kubva kune dzimwe nyika nenyika.
Semusikana wemuroora, ndinonzwa zvisinganzwisisike kuudza shamwari yangu kuti handidi kuenda kumuchato wake. Zvisinei, utano hwangu hunofanira kuuya pekutanga, uye ndinongonzwa ndisina kuchengeteka kuva pedyo nevanhu vakawanda kudaro panguva ino. Ndiri kupenga here? Ndinotsanangurira sei shamwari yangu kuti ndingasaenda kumabiko ake evachato ini ndichiziva kuti zvinorevei kwaari? Chinhu chekupedzisira chandinoda ndechekuti hushamwari hwedu huparare nekuda kweizvi.
— Kurevesa, Avhunduka Muroora
Dear TB,
Lisa Azcona , uyo akatambira runhare achivhunduka kubva kushamwari yake yepedyo ine dambudziko rakafanana mwedzi uno, anoti - Kubatanidzwa (uye muchato!) chinhu chakanaka uye chinonakidza chekupemberera. Nekudaro, dambudziko rehutano hwepasi rose rashandura chingangove chiri hongu-mu-mu-kurova kwemoyo kuita chimwe chinosanganisira kunyatso funga uye kufanofunga. Vimba neni pandinotaura izvi: Hausi wega uye manzwiro ako ane chokwadi zvachose. Ndinokurumbidzai nekufunga nezvehutano hwenyu. Mukuita kudaro, hausi kungofunga nezvehutano hwevadiwa vako, asi hwevamwe vakakupoteredza, zvakare.
Sezvo kutyisa sezvo hurukuro ingaite senge (hapana anofarira kuona shamwari yake yakagumbuka), ndinokurudzira kuvhura mitsara yekukurukurirana pakati penyu imi vaviri nekukurumidza. Muhurukuro yako, zvakakosha kuti utaure kuti kuzeza kwako hakusi, neimwe nzira, chiratidzo chezvaanoreva kwauri.
Kana iwe ukazofunga kusaenda, ndinofunga ringave zano rakanaka kuratidza shamwari yako kuti, kunyangwe usipo panyama, uri kufunga nezvake pazuva rakakosha. Funga kushanda paDIY purojekiti inoratidza hushamwari hwako hunokatyamadza - iyo inogona kuratidzwa pamabiko kana kugamuchirwa mangwanani-e. Pamwe ungatokwanisa kuronga a kushamisika chitarisiko chaicho papati pane hombe skrini kana purojekita. Kana paine chero chinhu chatakadzidza tese panguva ino isinganzwisisike, ndezvekuti mhemberero dzechokwadi dzinogona kuramba dzisingakanganwike uye dzakakosha.
Morgan Greenwald, uyo (ane tariro) acharoora muna 2021, anoti - Semichato yaacharoora uye muroora mumichato yakati wandei iri kuuya (kunyangwe yakamiswa) michato, ndinonzwisisa kushushikana kwaunofanirwa kunzwa izvozvi. Iwe unoda kuti zuva rakakosha reshamwari yako rinzwe rakakosha, asi panguva imwe chete, haudi kupira kuchengetedzeka kwako kuti rive rakakosha.
Kunyangwe dzimwe nyika dziri kutanga kurerutsa zvirambidzo uye kubvumidza kuungana kwekunze, zviri kwauri kuti unonzwa wakasununguka kuenda kuzviitiko zvakataurwa - kunyanya kana kuchange kuine makumi matanhatu-pamwe nevanhu ipapo. Kana uchiziva kuti manzwiro ako haasati achizochinja uye hausi kuzonzwa wakasununguka kuenda kupati yevatano yeshamwari yako, ndaizova akatendeseka kwaari nokukurumidza kupfuura gare gare kuti agogona kuita gadziriro nenzira inowirirana.
Kana iyi iri shamwari yechokwadi, anonzwisisa kwauri kubva uye anotsigira iwe kuisa hutano hwako nekuchengetedzeka pamberi. Kana zvinhu zvatanga kuita zvakajairika zvakare (netariro munguva pfupi - zvigunwe zvakayambuka), unogona kumurongera imwe mhemberero diki nevamwe varoora vake - pamwe brunch kana kunyange park hang!
AmiLin McClure , akambova muroora imwe nguva, anoti - Ndaizonzwa saizvozvo! Ini ndinofunga kuti hausi iwe wega munhu ari muchikwata chemuchato ari kufunga kuderera kuenda nekuda kwedenda. Zano rangu guru nderekuti: usamirire nguva yakareba kuti uudze shamwari yako kana usiri kuenda. Zvinoita sekunge wafunga kuti hutano hwako hunouya pakutanga, izvo zvine hungwaru pane yako.
Zvimwe unogona kutoita kuti muroora wacho ambosendeka mutambo wacho zvachose kuitira kuti shamwari dzake nemhuri vagopinda pasina kuisa utano hwavo pangozi. Ndinofunga zvakachengeteka kutaura kuti shamwari yako yaisada kuti chero vadikani vayo varware. Zvinotonyanya kukosha, zvakadaro, ndinofunga zvingabatsira kutaura zvinokunetsa kuti azive kwauri kubva, uye nekutanga iwe kuzviita, zviri nani.
Kana ari zvachose kwete kuti tigadzirise bato, ini ndinokurudzira kugadzirira imwe mhemberero yekubatirana imi muri vaviri chete. Nenzira iyi, iwe unogona kuramba uchikudza iyi yakakosha nguva muhupenyu hwake - pasina makumi matanhatu-pamwe nevanhu vakakukomberedza. Seshamwari yepedyo, ndine chokwadi chekuti achanzwisisa.
Dillon Thompson, asina kumbokokwa kune chero pati ine vanhu makumi matanhatu-pamwe chete, anoti - Semurume asina kuroora, wepedyo wandakawana pakuva muroora ndipo pandakaona zvakare Wedding Crashers svondo rapfuura. Zvakadaro, ini handifunge kuti dambudziko iri rine chekuita nemichato. Iwe wazvitaura iwe pachako: Hutano hwako hunofanira kuuya pakutanga. Icho ichokwadi kunyangwe tiri kutaura nezveparty yekuvimbisana, baby shower kana mhemberero yekupedza kudzidza.
Kana iwe uchinetseka nezvekuchengetedza kwako, saka iwe unofanirwa kuve wakatendeseka. Udza shamwari yako chokwadi iye zvino, uye iva wakananga pamusoro pechaungava wakasununguka nacho. Kana uchinetsekana nemaitiro ake, pamwe svika kune vamwe varoora uone kuti misoro yavo iri papi. Pakupedzisira zvakadaro, uchafanira kutarisana neshamwari yako - uye kana ane hanya zvakakwana kuti akuise mumuchato wake, anofanira kukwanisa kunzwisisa maonero ako.
Alex Lasker, anga aine shamwari nhatu kumisa michato gore rino, anoti - Ndakarongerwa kuve muroora (nguva yangu yekutanga!) mune imwe yemuchato weshamwari yangu yepamoyo zhizha rino kusvika ambomisa chiitiko kusvika 2021, uye ndinofunga kufunga kwake nezvenyaya iyi kuchakupa kujekeswa pano.
Munoona, aisangoda kuti hurongwa hwese hwemuchato wake huve hunotyisa uye huve njodzi kushamwari dzake nemhuri - mabiko ekuvimbisana, kupera kwesvondo remabachelorette, kugezesa kwemuchato, nezvimwewo. Zvizhinji kana zvishoma, aida. kudzivisa kuisa vaenzi mumamiriro ako chaiwo. Zvaisiririsa kudzima zvese izvo zviitiko kubva pakarenda yangu, asi zvakare zvakazorodza kuziva shamwari yangu yepamoyo yaifunga nezvevadikani vayo sezvo yaiita imwe yesarudzo dzakaoma kwazvo dzaakambofanirwa kuita.
Pamwe ndiri kuita zvisina kunaka Nancy pano, asi ndinofunga hundingoveni kuita bato rekuvimbisana kana muchato izvozvi - uye handifunge kuti unofanirwa kunzwa uine mhosva kunyange nekuderera kwekupinda. Nhau dzakanaka ndedzekuti, iwe unotoita kunge wakatsunga mune yako sarudzo yekusaenda. Chaunofanirwa kuita ikozvino kuudza mwenga nenyasha, kuve nechokwadi kuti ichi hachisi chinhu iwe kuda kuita, chinhu iwe have kuita kuti uzvidzivirire. Kana asinganzwisise kana kubvuma kufona kwako (izvo, kutaura chokwadi, ndine chivimbo chekuti achazviita), saka inguva yakakosha yekuongororazve hushamwari hwako.
TL;DR - Haaa shuwa muroora haupenge kana nepadiki diki vimba ura hwako panyaya iyi. 60-pamwe nevanhu ndeye zvakawanda panguva ino chaiyo, kunyanya patinozorora tichidzokera mu-munhu hangouts (nedziviriro dzakakodzera dzekuchengetedza, hongu.) Zviri kutaurwa, nguva ishamwari yako izvozvi - asi hazvizove gare gare. Udza muroora nokukurumidza: Bvura sebhandiro rausingazovipo. Chokwadi, zvichabaya, asi zvicharatidza kuti iwe unoisa toni yekufunga mune iyi sarudzo yakakosha uye hauna kungosarudza kusaenda kune imwe svondo pamberi pepati.
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