Nepo TikTok iri iyo yekuenda-kwenzvimbo yehungwaru yekubika, DIY hacks uye mazano erunako , takaonawo kuputika kwenhaurirano dzakakomba pachikuva, kubva mukurwira kusvika kuhutano hwekurapa nepfungwa. zano . Asi dzimwe nguva, iwo matipi uye maitiro, kunyanya kana zvasvika pakuvaka nekuchengetedza hutano hwehukama hwehukama, hazviratidzike chaizvo, kukanganisa , utano. Takaona mashoma euber akakurumbira TikTok hukama maitiro uye takabvunza neuropsychologist uye nhengo yefekisheni paColumbia University, Dr. Sanam Hafeez , kuti nyanzvi yake itore. Spoiler alert: Vese vanoparadza hukama.
1. Maitiro: The 0 Mubvunzo
Mune iyi hutachiona TikTok maitiro, iwe unobvunza mumwe wako mubvunzo wehunyengeri: Ungada here kunditsvoda nemadhora zana kana munhu anopisa kwazvo pasi rose nemadhora mazana manomwe? Ehe, kana mumwe wako akatora chirauro chemadhora mazana manomwe, havataridzike vakanyanya kunaka. Asi hunyengeri chaihwo kana mumwe wako akapindura, Iwe, asi kwete iwe nokuti ndiwe munhu anopisa munyika. (Chingo bvunza vaviri ava .)
Madingindira anoparadza hukama:
- Kupokana nemaune kusingakoshi
- Kusagadzikana kusagadzikana
- Kuisa manzwiro kune mumwe wako
Nyanzvi inotora: Kunyange zvazvo maitiro aya achiita seasingakuvadzi, Dr. Hafeez vanoona nyaya ingangove hombe ichitubwida pasi pevhu: Ngatitii Amy anobvunza mukomana wake Jack mubvunzo uri pamusoro apa. Amy anogona kunge akabvunza mubvunzo uyu nekuti ari kunzwa asina kuchengeteka kana kuti asina chokwadi. Kana Amy akaedza Jack nemubvunzo unokonzeresa kusawirirana kusingakoshi, anogona kuzviita nekuti anokahadzika rudo rwake kwaari uye/kana kutya kuzviita panjodzi uye kugovana manzwiro aanoita. Anogona kufunga kuti Jack anogara achifunga nezvevamwe vakadzi kana kuti anofunga kuti haana kunaka kupfuura vamwe vakadzi. Nokuita bvunzo, Amy ari kuedza kuwana kumwe kuchengeteka muhukama (nekutarisira kuti Jack achamupa mhinduro yaanoda kunzwa), pane kukurukura kusachengeteka kwake kana kutya naJack. Chimwe chikonzero chekuitisa mhando yebvunzo iyi kutanga kurwa nemaune. Amy anogona kutanga kurwa nemaune kuti aone kusvika papi paanogona kusundidzira Jack kusvika kubatana kwavo kwaputsika, kana aine zuva rakashata, kana nekuti ari kufungidzira manzwiro ake asina kunaka kuna Jack.
Zvekuita pachinzvimbo: Panzvimbo pokubvunza marudzi aya emibvunzo, Dr. Hafeez anopa zano, edza kukurukura manzwiro ako, iva akatendeseka uye bvunza zvaunoda uye zvaunoda muhukama. Uyewo, ongorora manzwiro aunoita pamusoro pako. Kana iwe usina chivimbo uye usingazvidi iwe pachako, zvingava zvakaoma kutenda kuti mumwe munhu angadaro.
2. The Trend: Kuvimbika Miedzo
Mune iyi TikTok maitiro, mutengi ane hanya anokumbira musori kuti aite bvunzo yekuvimbika, uko spy inorovera zvakakosha zvemutengi mukutamba (kana kwete) pamusoro peDMs. Mushori anoendesa ruzivo kumutengi, uye mutengi anobva afunga kana achida kugara vese nemunhu uyu. Iwe unogona kuona chinhu chose chichiitika here uko musiki Chesathebrat DMs chikomba chemukadzi ane selfie yakanaka uye tsamba ine flirty inotevera, izvo zvinoita kuti mukadzi apukute maoko ake kubva kumukomana wake.
Madingindira anoparadza hukama:
- Sabotaging trust
- Mhosva
- Kudzora tsika
Nyanzvi inotora: Iyi haisi nzira ine hutano yekugadzirisa kunetseka kwekubiridzira, Dr. Hafeez anoti pfungwa isina chinhu. Nekuti chokwadi, unganzwe sei kana mumwe wako akakuvhiyira pachivande? Ungazombovimba navo zvakare here? Ungafunga nezvavo sevanhu vakakura zvishoma here? Izvi zvingakutungamirira kuti usiyane navo here? Zvisinei nemhedzisiro, kana uine mumwe munhu DM wako akakosha mumwe, unova munhu asingavimbike. Kana mukomana/musikana wako akapasa bvunzo, unozofanira kurarama nemhosva yekuvayedza, uye uri kukanganisa kuvimba kwako nekugara zvakanaka kwehukama hwese, Dr. Hafeez vanotsanangura. Uye ngatiti mumwe wako haapfuure bvunzo iyi, uri kuzvigadzirira nzira dzisina kunaka dzekutarisana nekunetseka kwauinako muhukama. Iwe unogona kukudziridza tsika yekutarisa pafoni yavo kana kubira mumagariro avo enhau kana kuitisa iyi mhando yebvunzo zvakare (kwavari kana mumwe munhu).
Zvekuita pachinzvimbo: Anodaro Dr. Hafeez, Kutendeseka kutaurirana ndiyo nzira yakanakisa yekubata nekufungira kwako nezvekubiridzira. Kutanga, tsvaga chikonzero nei ungave uchinzwa sekunge vari kubiridzira. Zvadaro, nyora pfungwa dzako, manzwiro uye mireza matsvuku kuitira kuti riini iwe tarisana nemudiwa wako unonzwisisa kuti uri kunzwa sei. Ita shuwa kuti mese muri munzvimbo yamunonzwa wakasununguka uye wakachengeteka. Pakupedzisira, teererai uye munyatsonzwana.
3. Maitiro: Kubatwa Cheating
Zvichiwedzera, vanhu vari kushandisa TikTok (uye mamwe masocial network) kuisa cheating exes pakuputika kwekusaziva kwakapfuura munzira huru nediki. In iyi vhidhiyo inokurumidza kurova , musiki Sydneykinsch anogovana mawaniro aakaita mukomana wake wemakore mana aimunyenga mushure mekunge atumira selfie uye akaswedera mukati mekuratidzira kwemagirazi ake ezuva kuti aone mumwe mukadzi. Mamwe mavhidhi akabatwa-anobiridzira kunze uko anogona kunyanya kunyadzisa nemaune, senge uyu , apo boka reshamwari riri kutamba Handisati Ndambove Pakamera ndisingafungidziri-rakarwisa shamwari imwe chete yaiti yakatsvoda mukomana wemumwe musikana.
Madingindira anoparadza hukama:
- Shame
- Kutsiva
Nyanzvi inotora: Pane zvakawanda zvinokurudzira seri kwechido chokunyadzisa pachena munhu anobiridzira, anodaro Dr. Hafeez—unganzwa kuti vakakodzera kurangwa, kana kuti unoshuva kunzwa uri pamusoro kana kuti mukudzora kana kutaura kuti haubvumirani nemaitiro avo. Asi, anoyambira Dr. Hafeez, kunyadzisa munhu pachena kune zvinokuvadza zvenguva refu zvose mapato. Kunyara hakuna kufanira nekuti kunoita kuti vanhu vazvinzwe vakashata uye vabvunze kukosha kwavo, uye kazhinji hazvigone kuchinja kana kubvisa mamwe maitiro emunhu ari kunyadziswa.
Zvekuita pachinzvimbo: Kune avo vari kutambudzika nekunyengedzwa, chekutanga, rangarirai yaive isiri mhosva yako. Mamwe mazano ekugadzirisa anosanganisira kuzvikomberedza neavo vanokuda nekuda kwekutsigirwa mupfungwa, kudzidzira kuzvitarisira, kukumbira rubatsiro uye kusvika kune chiremba kana nyanzvi yehutano hwepfungwa kuti ukurukure manzwiro ako, anorayira Dr. Hafeez. Zvinogona kutora nguva yakawanda kupora kupfuura zvaungafungidzira, uye ndizvozvo.
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